Everything is a decision, you can do a thing everyday and still you are choosing it,deciding to choose it. And slowly you choose less, you notice less. We love because it's the best thing we do, but that's not the only reason we stay with someone we stay with someone because we're here for only a brief moment, and we need a witness. We need someone to look at us and see us and tell that in all our contradictions we are real. And that is a very active thing, it is a very conscious decision to truly see something,pay attention to it, strive to commit it to memory