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This is more a documentary about mental illness than catfishing. In the modern era you can background check, look them up in the white pages, and outright have them followed, there were too many clues that something was off for this woman to have started seriously considered even going steady, much less planning a wedding. Her first huge clue was that he never came to see her. This is a supposedly ultra wealthy man who can buy her a Beyonce-type diamond ring. lol If he's not visiting you, he either doesn't exist, isn't who he says he is, or isn't interested in you (people don't marry someone they won't even have coffee with). Wealthy people can go anywhere, any time they want, no matter the distance. He could have bought a house anywhere near her and then traveled back and forth. But the most shocking thing is that this woman had never so much as gone out on a lunch date with this person and was online picking out wedding rings, planning a wedding, and telling family members she was engaged - to someone she'd never even met. What in the good world. It's very obvious early on that he's not who he says he is and that he may not even exist. At the very least, you'd stop daydreaming of a wedding, turning down dates with other people, and sleeping on the phone? And what's most shocking is that there are still people out there who think every social media profile they read is a real person. Huge percentages of those accounts are fake just to scam people. 49% of all internet traffic is a bot, and then 15% are just online to watch Netflix. You're dealing more with fake people than real ones in this day and age. For God sakes people, get some common sense. It's too late in the day online to be falling for anything like this. I think the main question that this documentary poses is how lonely for affection are we as people for us to give up 8 years of our lives and plan a marriage to a person we've never even gone on a coffee date with. Even 1 year would have been pushing it, but daydreaming about a wedding to an online person for 8 years - who continuously ditches you over and over - is well within the realm of mental illness and not catfishing. The real Bobby and his wife certainly have a case against this person for identity theft/impersonation, but it's impossible for me to feel sympathy for the woman who pretended for a decade that she was in a fairytale romance with someone she'd never even spent a single night with. 2,920 days was plenty enough time to reason, "Gee, I've never even gone on a date with this person. Maybe it's time to go out with other people or sign up for a dating profile and meet someone for real." Tinder exists. Clubs exist. Churches exist. Therapy would be the only way to prevent things like this happening. As long as there's an internet, people will impersonate other people and catfish, but it takes only a few therapy sessions for the victim to reason out that you shouldn't stop dating other people for 8 years because someone texts to you really nice. If you haven't gone out on a date with a person, making the leap to wedding plans is a mental illness, not a relationship. All that said, it's an interesting story, and I fully thank this woman for sharing her experience. She will inevitably help another gullible person from being a victim like she was (and I do agree she was a victim of a very evil human being who preyed on her mental illness to harm her). While lying and manipulation will never be illegal unless it involves money, it should at the very least be seen as wrong, and she makes that point very eloquently at the end. It also took a great deal of courage for her to tell her story. Hopefully it will wake someone else up before they lose all the years she did.